Back to School With Confidence
Meeting your child's 5 core needs during transitions
When school starts, it's common for kids to have more tantrums, be clingier, or just be more emotional than normal. A transition asks something of a child that an ordinary day doesn't, and underneath it there are five specific needs. Once you can name them, you know what to do.
Free through September 30
$97 after October 1
$97 one time
Watch it as many times as you need. It doesn't expire.
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Send me the workshopDo you ever wonder why your child is having such a hard time since school started?
What's actually happening
It looks like a behavior problem. Usually it's stress.
What you'll learn
The five core needs, and what each one looks like in your house.
We go through them one at a time. What the need is, what it turns into when it isn't met, and what you can say and do about it this week.
Familiarity
A child's brain runs on rhythm and prediction, and it's asking one question underneath everything: do I know what happens next? Summer changed every answer, and now it's changing them back. Even a child who's excited about school reads that as disruption, and what you see is a grumpy brain hunting for something it recognizes.
Connection
Your child is anticipating the loss of you. In a younger one that looks like clinginess, meltdowns over nothing, or suddenly needing help with something she's done by herself all summer. In an older one it looks like the opposite: withdrawal, eye rolls, looking detached. Same need underneath.
Preparation
The need underneath is certainty, and uncertainty is where most of the worry lives. When a brain doesn't know what to expect it fills the gap with the worst version, because that used to keep us alive. Reassurance doesn't touch that, and letting her avoid the thing makes it bigger. Preparation is what actually works.
Home Base
You are the place your child comes back to and recharges, and that's still true at five, at fifteen, and at twenty-five on the phone from three states away. It's why the hardest part of her day often comes out the second she walks in the door. That isn't ingratitude. You're the person she feels safest with, so you're the one who sees it.
Grief and Growth
A transition is two feelings at once. Sad about what's ending and glad about what's starting, and neither our culture nor our brains make much room for both. The word that does the work here is and, not but. You're excited and you're sad. But cancels one of them, and your child needs to keep them both.
What you get
A workshop you can watch this week and use right away.
The 50 minute workshop
Recorded, so you can watch it whenever you have time. Nothing to attend, nothing to miss.
The workbook
You fill it in as we go, for your own child rather than for a child in general. You finish the workshop with something written down.
A page for each child
If you have children at different ages, the same five needs look different in each of them. There's a page for every child in your house.
What to say
The exact words to use in the moment, for when you know what your child needs and can't think of what to say.
It keeps working past September
These five needs are underneath all transitions, not just school. Bedtime, the end of screen time, a move, a new sibling. You'll start seeing them everywhere.
Yours to keep
No expiration and no window to watch it in. Come back to it next August when the whole thing starts over.
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Is this the right thing for you right now?
Yes, if
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Who's teaching it
I'm Leigh, and I'm a mom of five.
Calm your body. Direct your mind. Parent with a plan.
Resilient moms raise resilient kids.
Get the workshop
Free
$97 after October 1
$97 one time
This workshop will be included in the Resilient Mom Membership.It opens soon. Join the waitlist.
Tell me where to send it and it's yours.
Send me the workshopThe Resilient Mom Membership is opening soon.
It'll include this workshop and every one before it, a new workshop every month, and a weekly live call with me, for $59 a month.
Before you sign up
Questions moms ask me
What ages is this for?
Every age. The five needs don't change as a child grows, but what they look like does, and we go through how each one looks different in a four year old and in a fourteen year old. The workbook has a page for each of your children so you can work it out for the ones you actually have.
My child isn't starting school. Is this still for me?
Yes. It's called Back to School With Confidence because August is when most of us need it, but the teaching is about transitions. A new baby, a move, a parent traveling, the end of screen time. Same five needs.
How long is it, and when do I watch it?
Fifty minutes, recorded, and there's nothing to attend. Watch it in one sitting or in ten minute pieces across a week. It's yours, so there's no window you can miss.
Do I need to have listened to the podcast?
No. The workshop stands on its own. If you have listened, you'll recognize some of the ideas and this goes considerably further into what to do with them.
What if this doesn't help my child?
Then tell me. Write to me at leigh@leighgermann.com and say what's happening in your house. I read those myself, and sometimes what a mother describes is something the workshop was never going to solve, in which case I'd rather point you somewhere useful.
Is this therapy?
No. This is education. It isn't therapy and it doesn't create a therapeutic relationship. If what you need is treatment, I'd encourage you to work with a licensed provider in your state.
Your next step
You don't need a better morning routine. You need to know what your child is asking for.
The workshop is free through September 30. Watch it when you have time, fill in a page for each of your children, and you'll know what you're looking at.Watch it when you have time, fill in a page for each of your children, and you'll know what you're looking at.The Resilient Mom Membership opens soon. Join the waitlist.